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Packing for Alt Summit

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I don’t usually take unannounced week-long posting breaks, buuuuuut sometimes life demands it. I have been meaning to post about Alt Summit and how the conference went this year (hint: awesomesauce) but I’ve also been meaning to post my outfit round-up for Alt. On a day-to-day basis I’m not a big outfit planner. However, when I’m vacationing or at a conference like Alt, where I want to look and feel my best, while at the same time being totally comfortable while I go, go, go all day, I find that it’s a good practice to put together some outfits ahead of time. It saves me time at the conference and I save packing space since I’m not throwing in a bunch of “just in case” piece I most likely won’t wear. 

The Investment Pieces
I’m not a shop-a-holic, but I still love me some fabulous clothes. I have found that I’d rather have 1 really good, knock-out piece that I love that costs a little more, rather than 3 or 4 inexpensive pieces that I just merely like. An “investment” piece is going to be a different price point for different people. Maybe an “investment” piece for you is a $40 shirt, for someone else it might be a $400 shirt. The exact price is going to vary, but the point is that perhaps you’re willing to spend a little more than usual because you know its something you’ll love and wear for years to come. These were two recent investment pieces that I was willing to splurge on–a linen jumpsuit from Christy Dawn and a floral wrap dress from Anthropologie. The fact that both of these are complete outfits in and of themselves, makes me feel better about spending a little more than usual. Also, since Christy Dawn is all about sustainable fashion, that also makes me feel a lot better about spending money on clothes. But get this, I still saved a little money with both of these purchases! First, I bought the jumpsuit from Poshmark. For those of you who don’t know, Poshmark is a place were people sell items from their closet they no longer use. This jumpsuit was worn only once by the previous owner, but I saved $50! The Anthro dress I initially paid full price. Then a couple of days later I saw that it was Anthro day and everything was 20% off. So I called right away and had them price adjust that dress for me and bam, another $50 saved. 
 
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Special Needs Spotlight Then + Now || Lydia

Hey everyone! Welcome back to another Then + Now spotlight, where we reconnect with a family who was featured in the past and see how they’ve grown and changed over the years, as well as how their condition or disability has changed as well as their views. I have LOVED bringing back some of our favorite spotlights and am so happy to have Michelle and her daughter Lydia with us once again. We first met Lydia in 2014 when she was still a toddler and you can read her spotlight here. She’s a big kindergartner now and has a much better grasp of her medical condition MCADD. I hope you take a minute to read because it will remind you once again, that you never really know what someone is going through just by looking at them. Enjoy! 

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Miggy: Welcome back Michelle! I’m so excited to catch up with you and your daughter Lydia, Lets get started! First, let’s start with a brief overview of your daughter–what is her diagnosis and how does this diagnosis or condition specifically manifest in her?

Michelle: Lydia was born with an inborn error of metabolism called Medium Chain Acyl-CoA Dehydrogenase Disorder (MCADD for short). MCADD is a rare metabolic disorder where her body is missing the enzyme to break down medium chain fatty acids into energy. Essentially, our bodies break down food into various small particles (including fatty acids) and it turns these particles into energy. There are different lengths of fatty acid chains and Lydia is missing the enzyme to break down the medium length ones. This really becomes a problem when she gets sick and can’t maintain her own food intake. During a time of restricted food intake, a typical person’s body will eventually metabolize its own body fat for energy. Lydia’s body can’t do that because body fat is mostly medium chains, so if she can’t eat enough food to maintain her own energy, she will literally run out of energy in every single cell. If she goes without treatment, she will eventually have seizures, go into a coma, and die (typically within 24-36 hours of not eating). Luckily treatment is very easy and prevention is key! We just make sure she eats regularly and if she’s sick and can’t eat, she has to receive an IV with a dextrose (sugar-water) solution in the hospital until she can eat enough again. There’s more to it than that, but it gets pretty detailed and I still don’t understand all the biochemistry.

There are other aspects of her disorder as well, such as not being able to metabolize foods high in medium chain fatty acids (like coconut oil or fatty foods). While she can have those things occasionally or in small doses, the fats will build up in her cells and liver and cause problems later on. We eat a low-fat, high carb diet with lots of fruits and veggies. She also takes an enzyme supplement that helps transport the unused fatty acid chains out of her body, and she’ll probably be on that supplement the rest of her life.

Miggy:  We did a spotlight on Lydia back in 2014, in the years since what has changed the most about her during this period of time? Any unexpected highs or lows you’d like to share?

Michelle: When we first did her spotlight in July 2014, Lydia was 15 months old and we had just gotten out of that awful, exhausting first year. During her first year she ate small amounts every 90 minutes to 2 hours around the clock. She was able to extend her feedings a little as she got older but her body was much happier with eating more frequently and we were under strict guidelines for how long she could go without food, even while sleeping. In July of 2014 Lydia had never been hospitalized with an illness. In fact, she hadn’t been sick that much at all, which was a huge blessing! She also didn’t need to take the enzyme supplement yet since her blood work for that enzyme was still in a normal range.

Since then Lydia has been hospitalized 7 or 8 times. She’s gotten sick a lot and we’ve had a few close calls where she almost had to go in, but we were able to manage at home. We’ve learned a LOT about food and metabolism and changed our own diet fairly significantly. She has been taking the enzyme supplement since she was 3. The enzyme supplement comes with its own side effects and it took us awhile to figure out the right dose for her body.
Michelle: Lydia was born with an inborn error of metabolism called Medium Chain Acyl-CoA Dehydrogenase Disorder (MCADD for short). MCADD is a rare metabolic disorder where her body is missing the enzyme to break down medium chain fatty acids into energy. Essentially, our bodies break down food into various small particles (including fatty acids) and it turns these particles into energy. There are different lengths of fatty acid chains and Lydia is missing the enzyme to break down the medium length ones. This really becomes a problem when she gets sick and can’t maintain her own food intake. During a time of restricted food intake, a typical person’s body will eventually metabolize its own body fat for energy. Lydia’s body can’t do that because body fat is mostly medium chains, so if she can’t eat enough food to maintain her own energy, she will literally run out of energy in every single cell. If she goes without treatment, she will eventually have seizures, go into a coma, and die (typically within 24-36 hours of not eating). Luckily treatment is very easy and prevention is key! We just make sure she eats regularly and if she’s sick and can’t eat, she has to receive an IV with a dextrose (sugar-water) solution in the hospital until she can eat enough again. There’s more to it than that, but it gets pretty detailed and I still don’t understand all the biochemistry.

There are other aspects of her disorder as well, such as not being able to metabolize foods high in medium chain fatty acids (like coconut oil or fatty foods). While she can have those things occasionally or in small doses, the fats will build up in her cells and liver and cause problems later on. We eat a low-fat, high carb diet with lots of fruits and veggies. She also takes an enzyme supplement that helps transport the unused fatty acid chains out of her body, and she’ll probably be on that supplement the rest of her life.

Miggy:  We did a spotlight on Lydia back in 2014, in the years since what has changed the most about her during this period of time? Any unexpected highs or lows you’d like to share?

Michelle: When we first did her spotlight in July 2014, Lydia was 15 months old and we had just gotten out of that awful, exhausting first year. During her first year she ate small amounts every 90 minutes to 2 hours around the clock. She was able to extend her feedings a little as she got older but her body was much happier with eating more frequently and we were under strict guidelines for how long she could go without food, even while sleeping. In July of 2014 Lydia had never been hospitalized with an illness. In fact, she hadn’t been sick that much at all, which was a huge blessing! She also didn’t need to take the enzyme supplement yet since her blood work for that enzyme was still in a normal range.
 
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My New Skin Obsession

Dry brushing.
Have you heard of it? Are you doing it? Or are you asking, what is it?

Dry brushing is when you take a natural bristled brush and gently brush your skin all over, from the bottom of your feet, up and around your legs, over your torso, and down your arms and hands. ALL over. The listed benefits include exfoliating dead skin, stimulating the lymphatic system, reducing cellulite, unclogging pores and even stress relief. While the process isn’t difficult, there are some overall rules that everyone seems to follow. One, you always brush in sweeping motions and/or circular motions toward the heart. And it also seems that you start on the furthest points of the body (feet, hands) and move in. Simple right?

Does this sound like the latest crazy body fad? Maybe, but I love it. I can’t say I’ve noticed a huge difference in cellulite or toxin removal (which is what I think most of the big fuss is about–the stimulation of the lymphatic system) but I love how it makes my skin feel. With the dry winter weather really doing a number on my skin this year I feel like dry brushing works like a natural lotion. I always dry brush before getting in the shower (which I believe is recommended) and before I even get in, my skin feels so much softer and smoother. While I haven’t noticed a big difference in cellulite, I have noticed that the bumps on the back of my arms (or KP) have diminished significantly. Which is fantastic as I was using a very expensive body scrub specifically formatted for KP before dry brushing. I also just love the way it feels… you know like a gooooood back scratch, when someone just gets the right spot? It feels like that every time… just a nice overall, body scratch. OK “body scratch” doesn’t sound great, but seriously I love the feeling.
 
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Special Needs Spotlight Then + Now || Wyatt

Hey guys! Are you loving these Then + Now Spotlight posts? I am. This is Wyatt and I just reposted his spotlight just a few weeks ago and people were specifically asking if I could do a Then + Now post on Wyatt and his family. Thankfully his mom Liz agreed and here we are. You can read Wyatt’s original spotlight back in 2015 here. Enjoy!

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Miggy: Welcome back Liz and Wyatt! First, let’s start with a brief overview–can you remind us of Wyatt’s diagnosis and how does this diagnosis or condition affect your son and your day-to-day life?

Liz: Hi Miggy, Thanks for having us again! Wyatt (9) has severe (Anaphylactic) food allergies. He is anaphylactic to peanut, tree nuts and sesame seeds.  For more information on food allergies see here.

Miggy: It’s been a number of years since we first did the spotlight on Wyatt, in the years since what has changed the most about him during this period of time? Any unexpected highs or lows you’d like to share?

Liz: We have had some changes in our lives. Last time we spoke, Wyatt was in a clinical trial for peanut  desensitization with Oral Immunotherapy (OIT). We successfully finished the 3 year program in 2017. During our 1st year following the treatment, Wyatt had an anaphylactic reaction. We got his blood tested to see what was going on. The various tests came back inconclusive. During the following months, Wyatt started to complain, cry, hide when it came time to take his peanut dose. Then he started to throw up after nearly every daily dose. It was becoming harder for us to get him to calm down before his dose time. We also noticed he wasn’t growing, gaining weight and was always getting sick. We decided he needed to stop the daily peanut dose. This was really hard for me. I had such high hopes that he would be free of one food allergy.

Currently, it has been almost a year since we stopped the daily maintenance dose. Wyatt, now 9, has grown, maintained weight and is super happy. He also isn’t getting sick as much as he was. We feel we made the best decision at the time for our child. Maybe one day we will revisit OIT again. For now we will continue to aggressively avoid food with his allergies.

Miggy:  What has changed the most for you personally about your identity as a special needs or allergy mom? For example, have your general views on disability or special needs evolved, does your caretaking look different than it used to, and/or do you feel more or less personally balanced?
 
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Did You Beg, Borrow or Steal to Get in to College?

Waking up to the news that Aunt Becky was involved in a massive college fraud scheme wasn’t the only thing that had me reminiscing about being a teenager in the 90’s and the surprising path many take to college. As if the odds aren’t already stacked high enough against kids who don’t even have lunch money, let alone a team of people willing to break the laws for them to get into college. While I am really glad these ultra-rich above-the-rules people and their co-horts got caught, there’s a lot more grey to the system than just the outright illegal means of getting into college.

When I was in high school I academically bombed my freshman year. I had always been a 3.5 GPA or above student, but as I said, I bombed. I’m not sure what happened (OK I do, but that’s another discussion) but I spent the next 3 years making up for that horrible freshman GPA and in the end I was able to raise it to a decent, but not awesome 3.4. 

I was of course applying to BYU Provo. For those of you who don’t know let me try to help you put this in perspective… as a member of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, aka Mormons, BYU Provo is like the Harvard of Church schools. (And for my Mormon friends who actually went to Harvard, I appologize.) It is THE Church school to get into. Especially back in the mid-90’s. The only other option for a church school (which is where you wanted to go because ETERNAL COMPANIONS GALORE!) back then was Rick’– a 2 year junior college (which is now BYU Idaho and a 4-year University) or BYU Hawaii which wasn’t even on my radar that first year. I had no desire to go to Idaho, for me it was either BYU Provo, or some plan B I couldn’t yet conceive of. 

However, I was pretty sure I wasn’t going to get in. My ACT’s weren’t amazing (didn’t study once or take any courses. My bad.) and because BYU was so highly prized by every Mormon kid in all the lands, I knew my grades weren’t good enough. I was right. I didn’t get in. 

I remember being over at my friend’s house one day, a friend who had just been accepted to BYU, and her mom had a print out on the counter. She explained to me that at their school you could print out a list of GPA’s next to the college that GPA was accepted to. You couldn’t see any names attached to the GPA, but right there she had a list of 6 or 7 GPA’s that had just been accepted to BYU. She was going down the list when she stopped and pointed to a 2.7 GPA that had BYU listed next to it. She said, that GPA belonged to a boy in their congregation and everyone knew that his grandpa had made a major donation to the BYU, so he got in. 

My jaw was on the floor. She said it so nonchalantly. I couldn’t believe this could happen at BYU. A church school. BRIGHAM FREAKING YOUNG UNIVERSITY where they didn’t even serve caffeine on campus, girls can’t wear skirts above their knees and the opposite gender is only allowed in your dorm room during special visiting hours. THAT Brigham Young University. I honestly might not have believed it if I hadn’t seen that list with my own eyes. Perhaps this sounds naive, but remember I was 18 years old. 
 
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When Charley Met Emma Release Day!

It’s here! It’s here! When Charley Met Emma is officially released today!!!

As most of you know this day was YEARS in the making, yet suddenly HERE WE ARE.

Here’s what I can tell you: I have done my best by this book. I put my whole heart into it. And I’ll be honest, I’ve been nervous about it at times. Did I say it in the right way? Does the message come across clearly? Does the humor land? But now it is done and I proudly stand by it. All I can do is release it into the world with gratitude and hope.

This book is so much bigger than me, or even Lamp. It’s bigger than disability and limb differences too. This book is for ALL of us. We ALL do better, grow stronger, more compassionate, healthy and kind when we learn about and embrace difference. When we can remove curiousity and the “otherness” of another human being and see the humanity–the flesh and blood, beating hearts, the recognition of ourselves in another–WE ALL WIN.

The feedback I have received so far has been wonderful. It has been thrilling to hear people speak of the book highly, like Book.Nerd.Mommy  or TheStoriesWeRead on instagram. One of the best messages I’ve read so far came from Joanna Goddard of A Cup of Jo, after she read the book to her sons. She said, “I read the book to my boys last night and they loved it. They wanted to read it twice. And they had LOTS of questions on the page about people who are deaf, blind, need help breathing, etc. They wanted to slow down and talk about different disabilities. We talked about how my stepdad is hard of hearing, and about how my friend’s daughter needs extra oxygen. It was a beautiful moment. And they LOVED the character of Emma. Anton said he wanted to race with her, and this morning on the walk to school, there was a wheelchair sign (pointing toward a ramp) and he was like, “Hey a chair! Just like one Emma has!” It’s kind of fascinating to me that getting them much more comfortable with limb differences can be as easy and quick as READING ONE BOOK. That’s so incredible. Why would any parent NOT do that? Now if they see someone with limb differences, it will feel much more familiar and comfortable to them.”

YES to fostering great conversations with our kids!
YES to our kids seeing different bodies!
YES to our kids asking questions!
YES to our kids noticing disability in the world around them and having a positive connotation!
YES to “typical” seeing disabled kids as their peers!
YES! YES! YES!

Those conversations and that experience is what it is ALL about. Here are some other wonderful words of praise from people I admire and respect:
 
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Special Needs Spotlight Then+ Now || Jeremy

So excited to be doing another Spotlight Then + Now update today! This is Jeremy and he was among my first spotlights back in 2012! (Number 14 to be exact and today he is number 225!) I’ve thought about Jeremy a lot over the years and I’m so glad to see that he and his family are doing well in the intervening years. You can read his first spotlight here. Enjoy!

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Miggy: Hi Bambi and welcome back! I’m so excited to speak with you again and see how Jeremy is doing. I can’t believe it’s been 7 years! First, let’s start with a brief overview of your son Jeremy–what is his diagnosis and how does this diagnosis or condition specifically manifest in your child?

Bambi: Jeremy has a super rare condition called Marshall-Smith Syndrome. There have been fewer than 100 people worldwide diagnosed with MSS since it was discovered in the 1970’s. It is believed to be caused by a random deletion on the NFIX gene. As with many syndromes, there is a spectrum, and Jeremy is on the more severe end of the spectrum. I’m not going to list all the technical terms, but basically, he is at the emotional and physical level of a six to nine month old baby, and he’ll be eight years old in May. He is still working on head control, he requires a feeding tube, a ventilator for airway support, and hearing aids for moderate-severe hearing loss. He is non-verbal and non-mobile, meaning he requires our assistance to move him from place to place, and a wheelchair.

Miggy: : As it’s been a number of years since we first did a spotlight on Jeremy, what has changed the most about him during this period of time? Any unexpected highs or lows you’d like to share?

Bambi: In the last spotlight, Jeremy wasn’t even a year old, so a LOT has changed! Since getting on the ventilator, he has thrived, and he’s even up to four hours off the ventilator every day! We haven’t had an unplanned hospital visit in almost seven years.  Jeremy has started school, and we have discovered that he is all boy! He loves to crash into things on his bike, he loves motion and he is a problem solver. He is supremely easy going, loves to be held and is always full of smiles.

Jeremy is now in second grade in an amazing school just for kids with special needs. He comes home every day with huge smiles and coos all evening. At school they do things like riding a bike, swimming, PE, art, they have a sensory room, and academics and even a school play, which they put on for everyone in the spring. It’s been astounding to see the progress he has made in school.
 
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